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It’s been exactly ONE YEAR since I said goodbye to my comb…and what a year it has been! I’ve experienced so many things in 365 days that it’s hard to wrap my head around it all. It’s been the year of changes. Our jobs and homes have changed many, many times, but for now…I will focus on how my HAIR changed…and how it changed ME as well.

I think back to the moment I looked in the mirror in Boulder after Becky dreaded my hair. Oh. My. Word. What have I done? That thought was quickly replaced with, “Ok. Here we go!”. I knew it would be a wild journey…and I was up for it.

Those first couple of weeks were really rough…I was pretty self-conscious of my new ‘do and it consumed my thoughts at all times. You don’t realize how much you depend on your appearance to help you blend in to the crowd or to make first impressions. I kept them pretty tame and pulled back all the time…I was too nervous to “let my freak flag fly” (as Miss Becky would say).

And then one day I realized that I wasn’t thinking about them as much…I wasn’t obsessing about every little bubble or stray hair. I would get up in the morning and pull them back and be out the door. They were crazy and they were MINE. I wasn’t “Sara with the baby dreads” anymore….I was just Sara. I felt more comfortable in my own skin than I had for quite some time. Other areas of my life became less high maintenance…my make-up routine pretty much went away. I found that I quite liked a fresh face rather than a covered up one. Even when I had imperfections showing, I didn’t bother to cover them up like I would have before.

I even stopped painting my toenails. *GASP!*. Seriously. You have no idea how this rocked my world. I have had my toenails painted for pretty much my entire life. I think I might have been born with them painted. I was always jealous of women who had “naked” toenails. I always thought mine were too ugly to be seen in their natural state. But one day I decided enough was enough. If I could have dreads and stop wearing makeup, I could certainly give up the paint. And oh what a joyous day it was! I felt so free Don’t get me wrong, I like a prettily painted toenail as much as the next mama…but I just didn’t want to feel TIED to it…like I had to paint them for some crazy reason. Oh the fabulous side effects of dreads!

Like any hairstyle, dreads have their ups and downs. Some days I would look in the mirror and LOVE them, and some days…let’s just say I wasn’t feeling so much love. But, I have never once ever wanted to comb them out/cut them off…which really confirms my decision to put them in in the first place.

They are currently MUCH shorter than in the beginning…dreads go through a shrinking process as they lock up. It’s Most of my dreads are right at or shorter than shoulder length. There are several that refuse to go into my ponytail…so most of the time I have to wear a headband to hold them all back. The front dreads are VERY short…and only come to the tip of my nose when I pull them down in front. I do have hope, however. They have finally started to grow faster than they are shrinking! I can imagine that it will take another 2 years or so to get them to the point where I feel like they are “long”…but that is part of the journey. It will be interesting to see how they change in color as well…right now, my natural color at my root is really getting long, and the ends are really blonde (I’ve dyed my hair blonde since my freshman year of college). I would love to have all blonde dreads someday…but I’m going to let them do their thing for awhile.

For those of you considering dreads…the first year is definitely the hardest. There is much to be learned about yourself and even about those you love (in their reactions). They go through so many different phases…changing almost everyday. But it’s so rewarding…I love “knowing” my hair. I know every dread by how it feels! I definitely have my favorites…and Matt has his favorites too It’s hard not to touch them all the time because the texture is so fun now!

I’ve met so many friends online (and now in person) with dreads and there is just something special about the bond that you have with another dreadhead They understand the commitment, the frustrations, and the joys of having this crazy hair. It like gaining a new family!

My favorite part about having dreads has been not having to “do my hair”…which was one of my original reasons for getting them in the first place. The only maintenance I do is wash them once a week (or so) with Peppermint Dr. Bronner’s and rinse them with organic apple cider vinegar to condition. Sometimes I will palm roll them to smooth them out after I wash them, but other times I just let them go. So easy!

It’s been a wonderful journey so far, one that I wouldn’t trade for anything!

I’ve uploaded lots of new photos (it’s been awhile!) of my dreads. My sweet hubby did a little dreadiversary photo shoot for me. Check them out here.

Dreadlocks. The mere mention of the word has my grandmothers running for the hills. But I love them…and I have always wanted my very own. So, after we moved West, I decided that life is too short to keep wanting. I didn’t want to turn 80 and wish I had done dreads when I was younger. So, I did it. My lovely and amazing friend, Becky, flew up from South Carolina to visit me and she helped start my hair on it’s dreading journey.

For those of you who don’t know anything about dreads…this will be a wonderful chance for you to open your mind and broaden your horizons. Dreads are not just for pot smokers, homeless people, hippies, African-Americans, or Rastafarians. Basically, ANYONE can have dreads if they stop combing their hair. They have been around for a long, long time. There is a great book I recently added to my collection called “Dreads“. It has tons of stories and beautiful photos.

Here are a few excerpts of dreadlock history:

The first known examples of the hairstyle date back to ancient Egypt, where dreadlocks appeared on Egyptian artifacts. Mummified remains of ancient Egyptians with dreadlocks have even been recovered from archaeological sites.

The Old Testament also recounts the tale of Samson and Delilah in which a man’s potency is directly linked to ‘the seven locks on his head’ and according to Roman accounts, the Celts were described to have ‘hair like snakes’ Germanic tribes, Greeks and the Vikings are all said to have worn dreadlocks too.

Dreadlocks are a universal phenomenon in the East as well as in the West.
Spiritualists of all faiths and backgrounds incorporate into their paths a
disregard for physical appearances and vanity. And so, throughout the world,
such seekers often cease to comb, cut, or otherwise dress their hair: This
is how “dreadlocks” are born (click here for more info).

Dreads are hair that is knotted, matted, twisted…and uncombed. Stop combing your hair today, and in a year or two, you’ll have some dreads. However, you can help the process along. There are several different ways to make them, but I chose back-combing. Becky separated my hair into random 1″ sections and she used a metal comb to backcomb every section. It took 3-4 hours. I did have the option to use wax (a beeswax concoction) to help them stay together more, but decided against it. This is the method advised by dreadlock megasites Dreadhead HQ and Knotty Boy. However, I have heard way too many horror stories about dreadlocks and wax gone bad. It will take longer for them to “lock up” without the wax, but it’s worth the wait.

One of the main misconceptions about dreads is that if you have them, you can’t wash your hair. This is absolutely untrue. You can wash your hair every day if you want. Of course washing your hair everyday isn’t good even if you don’t have dreads. In the beginning, it’s best to wait at least a week while they mature a bit. However, what I’ve found is that because I’m not using any products at all, my hair stays nice and clean for a long time! Every 2-3 days is more than enough. You can always spray your hair with some yummy essential oils if you feel like it. Peppermint is good.

I have had many people ask me why I finally decided to go for it. Here is the short list:

I like them. I think they look cool.
Profound, I know.

I wanted to simplify my beauty “routine”.
Prior to dreads, I used (and toted around when I traveled):

• Shampoo
• Conditioner
• Mousse
• Volumizing Spray
• Comb
• Round brush to straighten my hair
• Blow dryer
• Pomade/Wax
• Hairspray

Now I use:

• Shampoo (Dr. Bronner’s Tea Tree…cheap, all natural, and I can use it for other things)

That is just mind boggling to me. I never realized just how freeing and simplifying having dreads would be. It has been so wonderful not having to “do” my hair everyday. I’ve had less stress…and more time. I use less products…and save more money. Hair products are expensive! Another perk is the added space in the suitcase! I love traveling light.

They are a reminder to me that I am set apart for Christ.
The entire journey is very spiritual. Dreadlocks are rooted in spirituality…back to ancient times. In these last 2 weeks, I have learned so much about myself and who I am in Christ.

• I am learning patience. My dreads will take about 3-6 months to “settle down” and about a year for them to be completely locked up. Dreads are constantly changing and forming. There are lots of photos in this set of dreads I love. Whenever I’m discouraged with them and the process, I go and look at photos of people with mature dreads and I am encouraged.
• I am learning non-judgement. In purposely becoming unlike anyone else around me, I can relate in a new way with those people who feel judged by others.
• I am learning about commitment. Dreads are long-term. If I want them to look how I imagine…it will take time. The same is true with my commitment to Jesus. It takes commitment become to become like Him! Every time I look in the mirror, I am reminded of recent commitments I’ve made to Him.

So there you have it. I’m going to be posting photos of my journey on this Flickr set. It will be fun to watch as they lock up.

About a year ago, I read a great book by Anne Lamott called “Traveling Mercies“. I wrote several quotes from that book in my Moleskin journal and found them recently. I love them and this is a great place to share them:

“No one knew the effort it took to make my hair look like it hadn’t taken any effort at all (p. 234)”.

• This was definitely me BEFORE I dreaded my hair. It took so long for me to get my hair looking like I wanted it. My hair is very fine with no body at all…and it took a lot of coaxing to make it work.

“How much longer am I going to think about my hair more often than about things in the world that matter? (p. 235)”

• So true. Hair is big business. Women (and men) are consumed by it most of the time. How it looks. What color it is. If their mother-in-law approves of the style. I’m not saying I will stop thinking about it…but I really want to focus on other things that are way more important.

“Dreadlocks would be a way of saying that I was no longer going to play by the ‘rules’ of mainstream white beauty…but that I was going to CELEBRATE instead (p. 234)”

• Doesn’t everyone want to CELEBRATE? I do.

The best compliment I’ve gotten came from my sweet daughter, Bella. We were talking recently and out of the blue she said,

“You’re a good mama. These dreads are cute.”

Children always know just what to say to make you smile.

This weekend marks the last Farmer’s Market in Des Moines for this year. There will be two more “winter markets” indoors, but the REAL farmer’s market is over. This makes me sad because I LOVE the Farmer’s Market. I love the people watching, the food, the atmosphere. I have created many rich memories with friends and family walking the streets of downtown. I am giddy with excitement when I think of one of my favorite rituals… getting my soy caramel latte from Java Joe’s. Java Joe’s is a local establishment that has a great vibe. Their baristas are fun and diverse…there are always tattoos to check out and dreads to behold.

Getting my coffee on Saturday mornings is one ritual in my life that brings me happiness. My tea ritual, my bedtime rituals…they are all part of who I am. I believe that rituals are so important…to bring order, to bring comfort, to bring expectant joy. Rituals are especially important for children, and we strive to have them in our family. Family dinners, reading familiar books, having nightly rituals. At the same time, we enjoy being free-spirited and take part in spur-of-the-moment activities. Ritual does not mean a loss of spontaneity in your life. Ritual is life!

I love dreadlocks. Most of my closest friends know that I would like to have some of my very own. Ideally, I will look like the cute girl in the above photo. I think dreads are:

*gorgeous
*unique
*inspiring
*patience-building
*funky
*maintainence free (after the first year or so)
*a spiritual journey

You can see more cool dread photos on my Flickr Favorites.

So for those of you who didn’t know that I would ever consider such a “crazy” choice of hair style…you can pick your jaw up off the floor now and go buy me a pretty hairwrap. Thanks!